Enabling an Addict: 6 Ways Your Help Is Hindering
Addiction is a disease and the addict needs your help. But do you know the difference between helping and enabling?
How many times have you had to go to bat and stick your neck out for them? How much have you paid in bail? Do you find yourself making excuses for your family member or loved one?
Keep reading to find out 6 different way you’ve been enabling an addict and how you can stop it.
6 Ways You’re Enabling an Addict
1. Making Excuses for Them
“He swears that he’s just really stressed at work right now. I’m sure he’ll be fine.”
“She’s just going through a rough patch. I’m sure it will all work out.”
Have you found yourself saying something similar? Now is the time to stop. Your loved one does not need “time to get their act together." They need an intervention.
2. Helping Them Get High or Drunk
Have you ever gone to the local Peachtree or Cumming store to get your alcoholic husband another bottle of liquor? It’s the right thing to do, isn’t it? That way, they aren’t driving and putting themselves or someone else in danger.
We’re afraid that this isn’t the best course of action. While you may be helping them today, you aren’t helping with the underlying problem.
Feeding someone’s addiction isn’t your responsibility. Doing so is enabling an addict, not helping.
3. Blaming Others (Including Yourself)
When someone needs help, don’t point your finger at everyone else, including yourself. Don’t stand by and let an addict do it, either. Unless someone physically forced them into addiction somehow, they have no one to blame but themselves.
It’s not their boss’ fault that they were fired. It’s not your fault that your wife drinks too much. It’s their fault and they need to understand that.
4. You Avoid Talking About the Problem
Maybe you think it’s best that you just don’t mention it. But think about it - is that really the best way to deal with a problem? If you get an infection or the flu, do you ignore it?
Drug and alcohol addiction can be just as deadly as any other disease that’s left untreated. And like any other disease, the longer you go without treatment, the harder it’s going to be to get rid of the problem.
5. You Give Them Money
“I need to run to the…uh…store.”
We understand that you don’t want your loved one to be on the street, stealing or selling their body for drug money.
If you think that they’re really not going to the store, offer to go to the store with them. Don’t just give them cash and leave them to their own devices.
6. You’re Parental
Do you follow your loved one around and try to keep them out of trouble? Do you find yourself in shady situations because you didn’t want them to be alone in case there was an emergency?
This type of enabling has serious consequences. You can easily end up in a jail cell with your friend or loved one, or worse.
So What Should You Do?
The next step is to sit them down and discuss their addiction. They have to want help and they have to be willing to do what it takes to get it. If they’re at that stage, we’re here for you and them. Contact The Carter Treatment Center today to schedule an appointment here at our drug rehab center in Cumming, or our drug rehab center in Suwanee.